How do you learn to do things for yourself? One of those films they used to show us back in the old days (yes, with - gasp- a projector) when a teacher took ill and there was no ready substitute.
You can read Emerson's Self-Reliance here.
And, of course, some guy writing a counter-essay for the NY Times critical of Emerson at The Foul Reign of Emerson’s ‘Self-Reliance’. Some fun stuff in the comments section.
*Yes, I fixed the typo in the post header.